Mistakes are an important part of life..

This is an interesting forward that I read recently.It goes as.....

Rutali married Hitesh this day. At the end of the wedding party,Rutali’s mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook with Rs.1000 deposit amount.

Mother said ‘Rutali, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there’s something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it’s about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in.I’ve done the first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh. When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you’ve had.’

Rutali shared this with Hitesh when getting home.They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.This was what they did after certain time:

- 7 Feb: Rs.100, birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage

- 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Rutali

- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali

- 1 Jun: Rs.2000, Hitesh got promoted….. and so on…

However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn’t talk much. They regretted that they had married the nastiest people in the world…. no more love…

One day Rutali talked to her Mother:‘Mom, we can’t stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can’t imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!’

Mother said ‘Sure, girl, that’s no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can’t stand it. But before that, do one thing first.Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first.You shouldn’t keep any record of such a poor marriage.’

Rutali thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account.While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked.Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.

When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Rutali. She found a new deposit of Rs.5000.And a line next to the record: ‘This is the day I notice how much I’ve loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you’ve brought me.’

They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.

“When you fall, in any way, Don’t see the place where you fell, instead see the place from where you slipped.Life is about correcting mistakes.”

Delegating work... 5 must-avoids ...

I would like to share an article I read long back in rediff.



Distributing work is never easy. Taking on a new job generally finds few takers, especially if the task is demanding and the time available is short.

Not surprisingly, we often run into problems while allocating work. Ranging from a simple goof-up by a colleague to ultimately having to do things yourself in order to get it done correctly and on time, we have all experienced the perils of delegation.

However, delegation need not always be such a thankless task. In principle, delegation actually makes great sense. Working in a team where you can delegate clearly and people understand their roles well can help any task get done efficiently and effectively.

Though people do try to delegate smartly, it often becomes difficult to do so. As usual, this can be analysed down to a simple list of easily avoidable mistakes. These include:


1. Not defining a clear 'follow-up and finish' schedule:


Delegating a task is only the beginning; you need to keep track of it until it is executed.
"To do this well, we need to ask ourselves three simple questions," says Pune-based corporate trainer Asha Chander, who conducts regular sessions on time management.
When and how frequently should I do a status check?What is the end date for the task?What are the parameters against which I will assess the work to see if it has been satisfactorily done?

2. Dictating, not delegating:

Those used to running the show by themselves often end up micromanaging when they delegate to others. The best way to assess the degree of handholding required is by matching the person with the task. As a general rule the lesser the experience, the more explicit the delegation. It also makes sense to monitor things closely if the situation is changing rapidly.

3. Delegating to the wrong person:

More importance is given to who the task is being delegated too rather than what is being delegated.
"That means if you follow the wrong path, your tasks might become low priority, even though they may have a high business impact. Conversely, if you go through the right people, or have the right person forwarding your request, things get done in a jiffy," says Sankule.

"You also need to be careful to delegate to someone who is your equal or junior to you in the hierarchy. If you send it to someone higher, even unknowingly, chances are they will consider it an affront. "

4. Delegating what you can eliminate:

As a thumb rule, you should follow the 'eliminate, automate, delegate sequence' for routine tasks.
Even if the task is mundane and boring, it's good to give credit to your team members and encourage them for even small improvements.

5. Playing passing the parcel (sub-delegating and cross-delegating unnecessarily)

The party game Passing The Parcel gives an interesting insight into the practice of delegation.Sometimes, a hot issue in a company is treated in a similar manner. It just gets passed around, until the senior management steps in. In the meanwhile, the matter is needlessly degated from A to B and onwards because nobody wants to be holding this particular 'parcel' when the 'music stops'.

Honestly, in some situations, such a situation is unavoidable. But if you really care about adding value, it helps to stop the unnecessary rounds. Speaking up will result temporary unpopularity but, in the long run, if you are at the right place, it will be much appreciated.

As you move higher and the scope of work you handle grows, delegating will become even more importance. Understanding these don'ts will go a long way in helping you master this skill.

Summing up, Mascerenhas adds, "The corporate hierarchy is like a game of Snakes And Ladders. Except here, instead of rolling the dice, it's the phone number that you dial (to delegate) that makes the difference and decides how you will grow."

To read the article click here